You already know the difference between ordinary and extraordinary.
The question that remains is:
Why would you ever want to hang out in ordinary?
There is only one person who can answer that question.
THE ORDINARY IS PERVASIVE.
'How are you?'
'How are you?' is one of the most innocently dangerous question there is because it is so ordinary. The automatic behavior is to let our sword down and offer ordinary-sleeping-zombie banter in exchange for safety.
I usually do not answer when someone asks me 'how are you?', except if I am doing a piece of conscious theater. I keep my sword out and ask them what do they really want to know, what kind of conversation they want to have with me, what outcome are they looking for. 99% people have no idea, which tells me that their gesture was unconscious and ordinary, coming out of their Box. I refuse to have such conversation with a human being. I often ask them to come back to me when they have a more interesting offer for intimacy.
Having a Meta-Conversation: I am interested in a having a different conversation with you than an ordinary one by answering your question. Would you be willing to do that with me?
Making a Proposal: I propose that you ask me a different question to which I don't know the answer and you don't know the answer to. Would you try that with me?
Being Radically Honest: Do you have 45minutes? This is how long I need to tell you how it am really.
Being An Experimenter: My current experiment is to not use the word 'I' for the next 3 days. You give me an extraordinary challenge by asking me this question. I thank you.
Transformational Listening: I hear that you want to get to know me better. So few people nowadays have a true interest in discovering the mystery that we are as human beings. Oh I am so glad that I have found a journeyer to go with me on this journey. Do you want to grab coffee while we go on the journey?